Clare Josa | Author And Keynote Speaker
UK's Foremost Imposter Syndrome Expert, International Keynote Speaker & 8x Author
Life isn’t always rosy. Sometimes the brown stuff hits the fan on a dumper-truck-scale. And it hurts.
But did you know that the pain is triggered by one little word?
And that most of us are falling into this trap, without even realising it?
Want to know how you can set yourself free?
[Read more…] about Which Single Word Is The Root Of All Of Life’s Pain? (And It’s Something Most Of Us Are Addicted To!)
Woo hoo! I’ve been doing the ‘website thang’ since back in the Dark Ages of 2001 and, over the past 13 years, I have created oh so much lovely stuff! A lot of it is here on the ClareJosa.com website, but I realised the other day… Duh! Lots of it was kinda tricky for you to find. You had to be truly dedicated to stumble across it.
So I came up with a bright idea – to pull the best bits together in one place and to call it ‘Free Stuff‘.
So now it’s all there in one place for you to dive in and enjoy! 🙂
Of course, there are still plenty of extra goodies, scattered around my website, such as MP3 audios, to guide you through particular techniques and PDF downloads, to help you dive in more deeply when you want to. But those will still remain semi-hidden gems, to surprise and delight you, on your journey.
But for now, here’s where to get your hands on some gorgeous free stuff.
I really hope you enjoy it ~ and that it helps you to change your life. I’d love to hear how you get on, via the comments box at the bottom of this article.
Thanks!
With love, Namaste,
I have to giggle when I feel drawn to discuss the idea of children and gratitude with parents. It gets a bit of a ‘Marmite’ response – the parents either love the idea or try to shoot me down in flames, telling me all the reasons why getting kids to feel grateful is either stupid or impossible!
Either way, it’s hard to argue against helping our kids to cultivate an ‘attitude of gratitude’ – surely it’s a great way to help them feel happier – and to grow up into more compassionate and grateful adults?
Here are 3 quick tips to help them love every moment of their gratitude journal experience. [Read more…] about Why Kids Need A Gratitude Diary – Just Imagine How It Could Change Their Life!
It’s so easy to fall into the trap of waiting until New Year’s Resolutions come round again, before you change your life. And when we think about things like Gratitude Journals, January 1st seems a logical time to start them. But if you wait until then, you’re missing out on the ten benefits that keeping a gratitude journal brings you – and you’re having to wait months to experience the changes it can weave into your life, usually in less than 3 weeks. If you’re curious about discovering how a few minutes of daily gratitude could transform your experience of life – starting today – then read on! [Read more…] about Why You Shouldn’t Wait Until January 1st Before Starting A Gratitude Journal
A very belated Happy New Year to you!
I hope that 2014 has got off to a great start for you.
I wanted to share with you a lovely gratitude project that you could do this month – starting a gratitude jar.
It’s so much more than a jar – it’s a fab way of changing your life, especially if you’re feeling a bit glum.
Want to find out how it works?
If you’d like to discover how much fun they can be, here’s where to find out more:
Forget New Year’s Resolutions – Go For A Gratitude Jar, Instead!
I hope you have a great month – and I’d love to hear how you get on with this project, over at our Facebook page: Miracle Of Gratitude. And perhaps you’d like to share a photo of your jar with us?
I’d like to bring you monthly gratitude projects this year, to help you keep inspired – and to discover 12 different ways you can weave gratitude into your daily life. If you’d like to get an email whenever I publish a new article about gratitude, here’s where to register – it’s free! Get free weekly gratitude emails.
Namaste,
P.S. Want to discover even more gratitude goodies? Check out what’s waiting for you at the Miracle Of Gratitude.
Ever done a ‘Boris’? Put your foot in it? Said the wrong thing? Here’s how to ‘SAM’ your way back to peace of mind.
“I may have small feet, but they’re a great fit in my mouth.“
How many times have we done it?
We all know that sinking feeling, as we realise we’ve said the wrong thing – really “put our foot in it”. And as for how we feel afterwards…
You know the kind of conversation.
For example:
Talking to a work colleague in a hotel at a conference, you comment that it would be a great place to bring a family for a holiday. “As I told you yesterday, my wife and kids left me last month.”
In a bar, chatting with friends, you complain – again – about having to get up at 6 to go to work. “Actually, five of my team are being made redundant this week and I have to tell them the news tomorrow.”
Bumping into a friend you haven’t seen for a while, you ask her when the baby is due. “What do you mean? I’m not pregnant!“
Whether we say the wrong thing on a major scale or it’s just a minor slip-up, it’s easy to do. Sometimes it’s because something has happened to the other person that we couldn’t possibly know about. Sometimes it’s because we’re not concentrating on what they’re saying. Sometimes it’s just ‘bad luck’.
Whatever the reason, we want to cringe and disappear, full of embarrassment and even guilt. It can lead to us avoiding the other person – who hasn’t even done anything wrong. This can leave them feeling potentially confused and hurt.
How You Could Handle It Differently
At the time:
S – A – M
Stop
Stop talking. Even if you’re mid-sentence.
Admit
Admit your mistake. “I put my foot in it. I didn’t mean to offend…” You’ll know the words that work for you.
Move On
Move on. You’ve apologised. It was an accident. It’s up to them how they choose to respond and you dwelling on it will only make things worse.
After the event:
Bottom Line: If you want to feel happier in life, it’s important to learn from mistakes and then let go of them. Saying sorry goes a long way towards making things better, but forgiving yourself – letting yourself off the hook – is an essential step towards feeling happier, too.
If, after trying S-A-M you find you’re still telling yourself (or others! ;-)) stories about what happened and how awful it was – and what a terrible person that makes you – then you need drastic measures!
We’re talking Mindfulness!
If you find yourself stuck in the ‘beat yourself up’ mode of thinking, after you have put your foot in it, then it’s vital to learn more about techniques like mindfulness, which can help you to:
For a micro-mindfulness fix for this problem, how about trying out this exercise – it only takes a moment:
How did that feel? Did you notice the shift, as you let go?
If you’d like to discover more about how mindfulness can change your life – in under 60 seconds – then you might enjoy the easy-to-learn, quick-to-use life-changing techniques in my best-selling book: 52 Mindful Moments. No pressure – it’s just that it could be what you’re looking for, right now.
I’d love to hear how you get on with this technique – and how it helps you, especially if you use it to heal and let go of an old situation when you put your foot in it. Please feel free to share, via the comments box, below!
Namaste,
