Clare Josa | Author And Keynote Speaker

UK's Foremost Imposter Syndrome Expert, International Keynote Speaker & 8x Author

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Are You Trying Too Hard To Feel Happier?

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Whatever we’re doing in life, most of the time, we just want to feel happier. Whether it’s getting the bigger house, the better job or the perfect relationship, we want to feel happy.

Yet how many of us have fallen into the trap of trying, over and over again, to make something work?

Whether it’s a relationship, a project, a job interview or even assembling flat-pack furniture, we fall back on the old proverb:

“If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, try again.“

There are two problems here:

  1. Going Slightly Mad
    They say that doing the same thing over and over again, whilst expecting different results, is the one of the first signs of insanity.
    For most of us, “try, try, try again” involves just that…
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  2. “Trying” Gets Us Off The Hook
    When we use the word “try” – either out loud or in our heads – we’re giving ourselves unconscious permission to fail.

    Think about it:

    “I’ll try to get that done by Tuesday.” Will it happen?

    “I’ll try harder to get it right next time.” Will it be different?

Are you trying too hard?
Are you trying too hard?

What Not To Do

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Do You Need A Push To Get Moving?

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Today’s Daily Sunshine is all about how it’s easier to make changes once you’re already in motion – and how you can get started.

“It doesn’t take much movement at all – and already you’re moving.”

We all know that getting started on changing something, or a new project, can seem overwhelming.

Sometimes the barriers to getting started make the whole thing grow in its apparent difficulty and taking that first step can seem impossible.

Where to start?

But how much easier would it be, if you knew that it doesn’t really matter what that first step is?

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What Are They Keys To Freedom?

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In today’s Daily Sunshine we’re talking about fast tracks to unhappiness and the keys to freedom.

“Acceptance and forgiveness will always be the keys to freedom.”

Hanging on to old hurts, trying to change the unchangeable (should such a thing exist!) and trying to control the uncontrollable: these are fast tracks to unhappiness.


Daily Sunshine - Are you getting yours yet?
Daily Sunshine - Are you getting yours yet?

But that’s where we spend so much of our energy.

Is there a pain you could forgive? Something you could choose to release, without having to force an apology?

Is there something that’s causing you stress that you could choose to accept and work around, rather than control or change?

It’s amazing how quickly little things become big stresses.

By practising forgiving tiny offences, by practising accepting tiny irritations, by practising releasing control of small issues, we allow so much more flow and happiness into our lives.

And the more we practise, the easier the big stuff becomes, too.

Is there a tiny thing you could forgive, accept or release control of today?

Wishing you sunshine and laughter,

Namsate,

Clare

Time To Choose A Starfish Mentality?

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Ready for a story that might just change your life? You know that feeling you get, when synchronicity throws something at you 3 times in as many days? Well that’s why I have to share this story with you.

I have “accidentally” stumbled across this story in the strangest and most unpredictable of places in the last few days.

It reached me at a point where I had been making a massive effort to help people, but everything seemed to be going wrong!

And it helped me decide to “adopt a starfish mentality”.

My invitation to you today is to read the story and then see if a “starfish mentality” might work for you, too!

A wise man who used to go to the ocean to do his writing had a habit of walking on the beach before he began his work.

Time to adopt a starfish mentality?
Time to adopt a starfish mentality?

One day, as he was walking along the shore, he looked down the beach and saw a person in the distance, dancing. He smiled to himself at the thought of someone who would dance on the beach in the morning. So he walked faster to catch them up and say hello.

As he got closer, he noticed the dancer was a young man, and that he wasn’t actually dancing. He was reaching down to the beach, picking up small objects, and throwing them into the sea.

The man approached and asked the young man what he was doing.

The young man paused, looked up, and replied “Throwing starfish into the water.”

“Why are you throwing starfish into the sea?” came the surprised response.

The young man replied, “The sun is up and the tide is going out. Unless I throw them in, they will die.”

Upon hearing this, the wise man said, “But, young man, do you not realize that there are miles and miles of beach and there are starfish all the way along? You can’t possibly make a difference!”

The young man bent down, picked up yet another starfish, and threw it into the ocean. As it reached the water he said, “I made a difference for that one.”

For me, this story is about spreading miracles.

You never know the impact a simple action might have in someone else’s life.

I remember a former work colleague, a friend of mine, back in my “employed” days, who was always incredibly patient with me, as I was learning the basics of web design and code writing. I would go back to him, day after day, with exactly the same question. I had a total mental block on “code”. Yet he always patiently explained, again and again, what I needed to know. He never showed irritation or impatience. And eventually I learned.

I left that employer to start my own business, over a decade ago. And websites have always been core to my work. Over the years, I have created various personal development sites. A few months ago, we did a quick tot-up and realised that the inspirational resources on these sites had touched the lives of over 3 million people across the world, over that time.

And I suddenly realised that none of it would have happened, had my former colleague not taken the time to be patient and help me build up my skills and confidence. Without him, I never would have dared to utilise the internet to spread the articles and resources I was creating.

I suspect he had no idea where his kindness was going to lead. But I’m certainly one starfish who is really pleased to have been thrown back into the sea!

Is there someone in your life who has made a difference to you through a simple act of kindness?

How about taking a moment to thank them, right now?

You could send them an email. You could give them a call. You could write them a letter. Or even tell them via the comments box! 😉

Here's The Deal: I'll Show You Mine…

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… you know how the rest of it goes!

I don’t know about you, but I get fed up of all those self-proposed gurus who tell everyone what to do, how to think, how to feel and even who to be, to change their lives. But so often, if you dig beneath the veneer, they’re just as messed up as the rest of us!

Then I was thinking (I know, crack the jokes). Part of the dream that led to the creation of The Transformation Club was creating a community of like-minded people who would share this transformational journey together.

I didn’t want to create a website where people would sit on their own at their computers, change their lives, and then walk away.

I wanted to inspire them to change – and to connect with each other.

You know the kind of thing – like phoning a friend, full of excitement, because you have suddenly dumped a habit that had been causing you problems for decades. Or busting a limiting belief that had been sabotaging your dreams for years. But on a much larger scale.

When we share the breakthroughs we have on our transformation journey, we achieve two amazing things.

  1. Firstly, we’re acknowledging our efforts and growth. By speaking them (or typing them!), we are consciously admitting that we have changed. And that’s a really crucial part of cementing changes.
  2. Secondly, we inspire others. So not only do we change our life, but we can motivate them to change theirs. And that’s spreading miracles, if ever I heard it!

So, to help you feel more comfortable about diving in and sharing with others, I figured it was only fair if I offered you a deal.

I’ll show you mine, if you’ll show yours!

😉

So I’m going to promise you that, every time I discover a new technique, strategy, shortcut or insight and apply it to my own “stuff”, I’ll share with you, openly and authentically, via the club’s Sofa area.

I’ve already got masses of techniques and tools up my sleeves (that’s the whole point of The Transformation Club), but that doesn’t mean I don’t still have “baggage” that comes up and bites me on the backside.

So every time I get whalloped in the face by the wet kipper of my Ego or stumble over the cliff of a well-placed, deeply invisible limiting belief, I’m going to share with you how I deal with it, so you can hopefully be inspired and motivated, too.

Sound like a deal?

Here’s the first instalment:

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Scientists Now Agreeing That Calm Mind Leads To Better Health

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During his teachings at Dharamsala, India, on September 8th 2010, HH Dalai Lama reminds us of the epidemic that has spread throughout our culture.

He reminds us so simply of the dis-ease that comes from our “need” for material posessions – and how this leads to jealousy and greed.

He tells us that the ultimate source of a happy life, whatever our beliefs or non-beliefs, lies within us.

Even scientists are now finding a clear link between a healthy, more peaceful mind creates a healthy body. Too much stress creates an unhealthy body.

A mind that is basically at peace finds it easier to remain at peace, even when disturbances come.

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