Whatever we’re doing in life, most of the time, we just want to feel happier. Whether it’s getting the bigger house, the better job or the perfect relationship, we want to feel happy.
Yet how many of us have fallen into the trap of trying, over and over again, to make something work?
Whether it’s a relationship, a project, a job interview or even assembling flat-pack furniture, we fall back on the old proverb:
“If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, try again.“
There are two problems here:
- Going Slightly Mad
They say that doing the same thing over and over again, whilst expecting different results, is the one of the first signs of insanity.
For most of us, “try, try, try again” involves just that…
. - “Trying” Gets Us Off The Hook
When we use the word “try” – either out loud or in our heads – we’re giving ourselves unconscious permission to fail.Think about it:
“I’ll try to get that done by Tuesday.” Will it happen?
“I’ll try harder to get it right next time.” Will it be different?
What Not To Do
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