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Top 3 Manifesting Mistakes And How To Avoid Them

When it comes to creating the life of our dreams, there are 3 simple mistakes that most of us are making. Yet these can completely scupper our plans, making it nigh on impossible for what we dream of to arrive.

In fact, when it comes to manifesting, our job is simple. Just do the opposite of what most of us are doing!

Here are the 3 simple mistakes and what you can do instead.

Hanging on to what you’ve got
It’s a basic fact of manifesting – Law Of Attraction – that the Universe needs a vacuum to fill. If you’ve already got too much stuff, it’s tough for more to enter your life. Similarly, if you’re so scared that you’ll run out, you can end up hoarding. Then you’re sending out the message of fear of lack and so you’ll be getting lack. It becomes a vicious circle.

What can you do instead?

Keep the energy flowing.
Blocked or stagnant energy can completely prevent you from attracting new abundance into your life.

Every time you get a chance, have a clear-out. Go through your closet and be ruthless, giving away EVERYTHING that you don’t wear any more or that doesn’t make you look great.

Declutter your home. If you don’t seriously love having something around – no matter who gave it to you or how much it cost – give it to someone else who will love it. Otherwise you’re sending out the message big time that you’re happy to settle for being surrounded by stuff you don’t like. And guess what that will bring you more of…

Get spending. Let your money flow. Have you been getting freaked out about money? Desperate to build up your savings, to the extent of putting off, say, essential repairs or doing jobs yourself that you’re not enjoying? Then you’re not only telling the Universe that you’re scared you won’t have enough money, but you’re also telling it you’re cutting back, so you need less. No one is saying you should be reckless, but it’s essential to be honest with yourself and see whether the emotion behind saving and holding onto stuff is fear-based.
By creating the space, you’ll automatically attract more of what you really want.
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Trying To Stay In Control
Trying to control how things come into your life – how your dreams become reality – is a great way to miss all of the open doors and really slow things down. If we’re too busy expecting things to be done our way, then we won’t spot the signs and will completely miss the sychronicities and signposts that the Universe has ligned up for us. It’s like programming your satellite navigation system but then ignoring every direction it’s giving you.

What can you do instead?

Get out of the way!
Instead of making your job to ‘project manage’ how your dreams are manifested, make it your job to spot the signs along the route. Not only is this less stressful, it’s also faster and what comes your way will be bigger and better. You’re no longer restricting the Universe by insisting on ideas that your conscious mind has thought of.
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Not being clear about what you want
So often we don’t get what we wanted because we didn’t hold a crystal clear vision of what it was we were asking for. It’s like a kid asking for a bike at Christmas and then being disappointed because it was a tricycle instead of a motorbike.

What can you do instead?
Be explicit about what you want. Choose it consciously, not by accident. And be aware of how you will feel when you get it – and feel that way now. It isn’t about saying your dream home has to have a pink front door and roses growing up the fence – though it might have these. Manifesting is about getting the essence of your desire. That’s why it’s so important to know what has motivated you to want something and experience what it will feel like, once you’ve got it.

Otherwise you’re just being vague – and you’ll get pot luck results.

Imagine you were going on holiday. You would make sure you knew where your destination was. If you were driving on the motorway, you would watch out for every sign that mentioned your destination, and follow those signs. And, even if you took the long way round, you would still get to where you wanted to go. You wouldn’t just set out, not sure where you were heading, and get distracted by every potentially interesting sign, asking yourself whether it might be taking you in the right direction : “Maybe that’ll take me where I want to go. I wonder where that might be?”

Clarity and focus are essential for manifesting.

The 3 Golden Rules Of Manifesting

Let things flow – give up hoarding
Let the Universe show you the way
Be clear about what you want and stay focussed on that – and that alone.

An Emotional Rollercoaster: 7 Musings On Motherhood

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If there’s only one truth about becoming a mum, it’s that it changes your life – forever.

The ante-natal classes just don’t do justice to that fact. They talk about lack of sleep, changing nappies and how to “burp” your baby, but rarely do they mention the highs and lows, the tough bits and the amazing bits of motherhood.

So, after a mere 4 years of being on this particular rollercoaster, here are 7 musings on motherhood – and how to feel happier while you’re at it!

Are You Too Much Of A Historian?

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When it comes to planning the future, most of us are historians.

We all know how it works.

“How are you?”

“Oh, you know… It was a tough weekend and then I had some really tricky stuff to do at work this week and my boss is always a nightmare, so I guess I’m pretty tired.”

It starts with little things. Someone asks us how we are and the answer we actually give is how we have been, not how we are now. What’s wrong with that? It keeps us in the cycle of how things used to be, throwing away any chance of changing them.

We “tell it how it is” – or even worse – “tell it how it was”.

And then we build in another layer – I call it the “I’ll feel happy when…” syndrome.

“I’ll feel happy when I get the job / relationship / payrise / car / home…”

It’s like happiness is a job we’re always putting off to some unspecified time in the future.

We find ourselves repeating the same patterns of behaviour, the same relationship cycles, the same mistakes.

When we worry about how the future might be, based on how the past was, we’re potentially throwing away any chance to make things different next time. We’re experts on our past – historians, analysing where it all went wrong. But that can keep us trapped with things we can’t change, missing out on the chance to steer things in a new direction.

“Worrying is a way of creating a future you don’t really want.”

The problem is simple:

Most of us are too busy being historians to deliberately plan and create our future.

Imagine a life where we actually learn from the past, history doesn’t repeat itself and we move towards our dreams? Imagine finding yourself where you want to be, more often than where you used to be?

Seven Steps To Turning Things Around

When Did You Last Wash Your Car?

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Is your car spick and span, gleaming its way along the road, recently polished with everything tidily arranged and within easy reach?

Or is it like mine can be – several months past needing its last wash, two-toned with mud and a mass of kids’ snack crumbs, discarded odd socks (the kids again, honest) and random pieces of mail strewn across the footwells?

And why should you care?

All of us have a messy car from time to time, but did you know it tells the world more about you than you might realise?

The way we look after our car is a mirror to how we are feeling

A mind that is calm and happy will create an environment very different to one that is stressed and overwhelmed.

For most of us, this shows as clutter on the passenger seat and the need for an overdue wash and wax. It’s all too easy to get into a cycle of neglect.

But things can reach extremes

I had a situation a few months ago where I was trying to do too much with too little time or support. Sure enough, it showed in my car. She (yes, she) was covered in mud from the winter weather, her interior was full of junk and, quite frankly, had I been asked to give anyone a lift, I’d have felt mortified.

It came to a head one lunchtime when I was picking my son up from Kindergarten. I had passed the fuel station, seeing my fuel light on, thinking “it’s only another 10 back to home – I’ll be fine.” Sure enough, on the return trip, I was going up a steep hill and ran out of fuel, grinding to a complete halt on a high speed road. The police had to come to push the car to safety, while I skulked my way to the petrol station to buy an emergency fuel cannister. Now that was mortifying.

But what did it say about me? The message was clear. I wasn’t looking after myself and I was running on empty. Literally.

The quote “as within, so without” comes from ancient wisdom and one of its meanings is that our internal world is reflected in our external reality.

So if we’re looking after something personal, such as our car, keeping it clean, tidy and well-serviced, then we’re probably doing the same to ourselves. Neglecting our car shows we’re likely to be neglecting ourselves. And the same goes for our home, our office or even our appearance. It shows that, at some deeper level, we don’t care.

What can you do?

The biggest step towards turning things around is to be aware of the problem. If you’re neglecting yourself, it will show in your surroundings.

Human nature means we often find it difficult to nurture ourselves. The great news is that “as within, so without” works both ways.

So if you want to turn things around, start by looking after your car – or your bedroom or wherever you’re neglecting on the inside. Turning this into a new routine will produce the side-effect that your “as within” will change, too. You’ll automatically start taking care of your body, your emotions and your mind, which will help you feel more positive.

Results can be fast.

It’s not about suddenly adding a weekly car clean and wax to your “to do” list. It’s much easier than that. Simply keeping your home free of clutter and finishing off the little jobs you start will give your unconscious mind the clear message that things are changing – for the better.

And once you’re into the habit of looking after your outside world, you might be surprised how quickly you think of ways to look after the “inside” you.

Remember: your inner and outer worlds are reflections of each other. You only need to make changes in one of them to impact them both.

And if you’d like some quick fixes, there are some great, easy techniques you can apply right now, to start feeling happier and less stressed in under 5 minutes.

Claim your copy of “5 Secrets To Feeling Happier Now” by going to http://www.howtofeelhappier.com and registering for our monthly “Inspirations” ezine. You’ll find the boxes in the top right hand corner.

Can You Afford Not To Relax?

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Do you think you don’t have time to relax?

I know what you mean.

Life is so hectic, with stress flying in all directions, that the thought of taking 10 or 20 minutes out to relax seems like madness.

Yet it’s a proven fact that:

A relaxed mind is a creative mind.

So if you’ve got a to-do list as long as your arm, perhaps the best thing you could do would be to start off with 20 minutes of deep relaxation.

It might seem strange, but spending that 20 minutes will actually buy you more time.

Why Passing Judgement Is A Risky Business

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Most of us are so used to passing comment about everything and everyone around us that we don’t even notice we’re doing it.

And if we were to notice, we’d probably just laugh it off, with a slightly guilty conscience.

Find out why it’s a seriously risky business.

Yet passing judgment on others gives our unconscious mind a dangerously negative message.

It’s a fact of life: most of us are walking round passing judgement and commenting on the world around us.

Even reading newspaper or magazine that’s judging celebrities, for example, is giving our unconscious mind the message that you have to look or behave in a certain way, in order to be accepted.

Whether it’s commenting on someone else’s clothes or the state of the cafe where we grab a coffee, we’re passing judgement and it’s usually not pretty…

It’s partly a cultural thing and partly a product of our upbringing that gives us this habit. And some of us have it worse than others.

There are two major risks with running this one:

It can encourage us to run generally negative thought patterns.
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Every time we judge someone else, it gives our unconscious mind the message that we have to behave, think, dress or speak in a certain way, in order to meet others’ approval – and even be loved.

The thing is that our unconscious mind doesn’t pay attention to whether we’re talking about the person in the street or ourselves. It just pays attention to the emotions behind the message.

So it quickly learns that being accepted or loved is dependent on us being a projection of who we think others want us to be – whether that’s accurate or not.

Yet have you ever noticed people who are genuinely “happy in their own skin” are those who attract friends like a magnet? They radiate a confidence and a level of self-acceptance that makes it easy to be around them. It’s as though they are so happy with who they are, so able to see the positive aspects, that they act as a mirror to us of those qualities in ourselves.

So believing we have to be someone who we aren’t, in order to be liked, is a recipe for disaster.

Yet being who we truly are can be one of the greatest challenges we’ll ever face.

And it’s a life-long journey, peeling away the layers of the onion, releasing the limiting beliefs that are holding us back, each time discovering anew who we truly are – and how amazing that person is.

And one of the simplest steps towards that goal is to let go of judging others – and ourselves.

Turning down the volume on our inner critic; letting go of the need to find fault; looking for the good in people, places and situations, rather than having an eagle eye for their mistakes.

And taking this one thought at a time is the easiest way to start.

Playing with this for even just 3 days and it could literally change your life.

Want to give it a try?