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Is It Time To Retune Your Inner Radio To Gratitude?

When we spend time complaining about what’s going wrong, what others are or aren’t doing and how much of what we want we don’t have / how much we don’t want what we have, guess what happens?
We are programming our minds to focus on more of that.

It’s as though we’re tuning a radio station to play us a ‘life soundtrack’ of complaining, ‘don’t want’ and ‘don’t like’.

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Fortunately there’s a really simple solution.
Instead of complaining about what’s bad / wrong / what we don’t have, focus on what’s going well, what we do have, what we do like and we’ll be waving a magic wand, setting the filters in our brain to spot more of that.
When we do this, it’s as though a miracle occurs:

“Whatever you appreciate and give thanks for will increase in your life.”~ Sanaya Roman

It feels like the things we appreciate are growing, because we’re giving them more of our ‘head space’. But it also physically occurs too, because we’re giving our mind the instruction to notice and to create chance for more of what we appreciate to ‘arrive’. We’re more likely to spot the open doors and opportunities that allow more of it into our experience of live. We’re more likely to say the things and take the actions that bring what we appreciate into our world.

The simple act of saying thank you for what we have – of appreciating and feeling good about how our life is – shifts our radar and retunes that radio station.
Each time you catch yourself complaining, how about pausing for a moment and asking yourself, “What could I choose to feel grateful for, in this moment?”
There will always be something.

This is one of the many reasons why your daily ‘gratitude minutes’ are so incredibly important – and potentially life-changing. They are training your mind to consistently allow more of what you feel grateful for into your experience of life.

Surely that’s worth a minute a day of your time?

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Namaste,
Clare

How To Find The Right Meditation Class For You: 10 Must-Ask Questions For Newbie Meditators

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Learning meditation is much easier with a good teacher. And face-to-face classes can work better for many than online courses or books, because of the moral support, the interaction between students and the weekly ‘nudge’, to keep your practice fresh.

But how do you know if a particular meditation class is right for you?
How do you know whether the teacher will actually be able to help you?
How can you find out whether their ‘style’ of meditation is what you’re looking for?

Here are 10 questions you should ask, BEFORE going to a meditation class!

Are You Giving Away Your Happiness?

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In yesterday’s post (How To Live The Life Of Your Dreams), I mentioned that the first step is surprisingly simple – decide who you want to be. Yet it’s also deceptively complex.

How many of us know who we actually are, let alone who we want to be?

Any why does it matter, anyway?

Well, living the life of our dreams isn’t about “stuff”, though stuff (material things) may be part of the package.

It’s about an attitude, a mindset, a way of being.

It’s about getting back into the “here and now”, to truly appreciate what we already have and anticipate where we are going. It’s not about living in the past or dreaming of a future where we will finally give ourselves permission to be happy.

Living the life of your dreams is about allowing yourself to feel happy, whatever is going on around you.

For most of us, that can feel like a massive leap, so let’s take this slowly.

How often have we told ourselves:

I’ll be happy, when…

… I get that promotion / my boss leaves / this project is finished.

… we have paid off the mortgage / car loan.

… the kids stop whining / my partner does what I’m asking.

… I get those new shoes / that faster car / the smartphone.

… I lose 10 lb /look more like that supermodel.

Why are we giving away our right to be happy right here, right now?

All our power is being held by some future event, over which we may or may not have any influence. That puts us straight in the position of powerless victim, which is a tough place to be, if you want to feel happy.

Why do we give away control over our happiness to other people or external circumstances?

Because it’s a habit. That’s all.

And habits can be changed.

Even the strongest addiction can be released. Not convinced? Check out the article: “How Long Does It Take To Break A Habit?”

It’s almost impossible to feel happy, if we’re spending all our time mulling over regrets about the past or preoccupying ourselves with worries about possible futures.

Incidentally, Esther Hicks defines worrying as: “creating a future you don’t really want” – so true!

How can we start to release that old habit, of giving away our happiness?

Here are three things you could do now to reclaim your happiness:

Get out of the drama
Most of our unhappiness is caused by the drama with which we surround the events of our life. We’re experts at projecting the story, rather than opening our eyes to the truth.
If you’re thinking about something and it’s making you irritated, you could stop for a moment and ask yourself this questions:
“What’s the simplest Truth in all this?”
Answer that question honestly and you’ll be racing back up towards a more neutral emotion, from which it’s easier to move on to step two…

What am I enjoying, right now?
This question does two things:

It brings you back to the present moment, back from stressing about the past or worrying about the future.

It helps shift your awareness from what’s wrong for you to what’s going well for you. Fast-track to feeling happier.

Get yourself a happiness-theft radar!
Train yourself – moment by moment – to spot when you’re giving away your happiness – when you’re allowing someone or something else to decide when you can be happy.
It doesn’t take long to get really good at this.
Of course, you can still choose to allow it to happen; to give away your happiness. But then at least it’s your choice, rather than an unconscious script you were running on auto-pilot!

Is it time to reclaim your right to feel happy?

These three steps are an excellent start to getting back in the driving seat of your happiness, which is the very early stage of Living The Life Of Your Dreams.

Are you ready to move towards living the life of your dreams?

If you’d like to come with us on this journey, make sure you’re getting the updates, every time we write a new article (Living The Life Of Your Dreams RSS feed) or join us in our Living The Life Of Your Dreams Facebook group, for moral support and some fun!

Can’t wait to have you join us!

With love,
Clare

Do You Know What You Want?

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I have a theory that one of the hardest parts of creating the life we dream of is figuring out what we really want.

There’s something that happens when we have complete clarity that gives us a sense of motivation and focus, meaning we can create a life that most would call “charmed”.

Yet years come and go and we often feel we’re making little progress towards our dreams.

The arrival of a New Year is a great time to focus our attention on what we really want and get clear about our priorities. Then all we need to do is sit back and believe.

It’s taken me years to figure that one out. I used to be the Queen of “doing”. If I wanted something, the first thing I would think about was the “how”. And if I couldn’t figure out the “how”, I would feel discouraged and would give it all up as a bad idea.

Nowadays, I realise that all that “mind work” of working out the “how” meant I was missing all the signs and opportunities along the way. They would have made things soooo much easier!

So here’s a rule of thumb that was on my Abraham-Hicks perpetual calendar this week:

Make a decision about what you want,

focus your attention there,

find out what it feels like to be there.

And then let go and wait for inspired action.

By far the most important part of this is deciding what you want.

So if you could wave a magic wand and have any life you wanted, what would you wish for?

My invitation to you this New Year is to:

Make a decision about what you really want and write it down
Imagine you’ve already got it / been there / done it and really feel the emotion of that
Spend a couple of minutes in that “place”
Repeat every morning before you get up
Turn your radar on every day for actions that will move you closer to your dream. Don’t force it, just let it happen.

Here’s wishing you the 2009 of your dreams!

Let me know how you get on via the comments box.

Thanks,
Clare x

Want To Start A Happiness Epidemic?

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Why bother?
Why bother spreading happiness? Why put in the effort to inspire others to feel happy?

It’s simple, really. To give something away, you have to first believe you have it. So one of the best ways to feel happy is to help others feel happy.

It started with a smile…

It can start with a smile. You don’t even have to go the whole hog with a toothy grin. You can just smile with your eyes, if that feels more comfortable. Not sure how that works? Practise in front of the mirror. Make it real.

Aside: ever wondered why some celebrity photos just look “wrong”? It’s often because they’re smiling with their faces, but not their eyes, so we subconsciously spot the “fake smile”. It’s like we have a built-in “phoney smile radar”. There’s your random fact for the day!

Gandhi knew what he was talking about…

One of my all-time favourite quotes is from Gandhi. I see it so often on people’s profiles on Facebook that I know it’s one that rings true for many of us. Here it is:

Be the change that you wish to see in the world.

I apologise to the legend if I have misquoted him, but that’s the way I remember his words.

What does it mean?

If you want to see peace in the world, start with yourself. Rather than waiting for everyone else – the politicians, the corporations, the armies – to sort out peace, just be peace yourself and watch it spread.

So if you want the world to be a happy place, just be happy yourself. That will instantly start to affect those around you and will subtly lift your moods. If we all did this, well. You can work that one out, I’m sure!
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Tell A Friend

If you know of any great happiness resources, tell a friend about them. You might know a great book, a great film or something else that has helped you feel happier. Share it with people.

Don’t do it in a way that leaves them feeling obliged and potentially embarassed, if they don’t feel the same way about it as you. That’ll just lead to them avoiding you…

Instead pass on the information out of love and let go of the outcome.

After all, it’s up to them to choose whether or not they want to feel happy. There’s nothing you could ever do to force or persuade them.

What are 3 things you could do to spread happiness today?

How about sharing them, via the comments box?

And if you’d like to connect with other happiness experimenters, how about ‘liking’ the Soul-Sized Living Facebook Page? And you could join in on the Soul-Sized Living forum. See you there! 🙂

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