How often do you hear me banging on about your limiting beliefs, hidden blocks, excuses and secret fears getting in the way of the difference you want to make in the world? And how often do I spill the beans (usually for free – I’m a compulsive over-giver on this) on how you can ditch those hidden blocks, self-sabotage patterns and feeling like a fraud?
And, if you’ve tried it on for size, you’ll know that the stuff I teach works. You might even think it rocks. It has helped many thousands of passionate world-changers, just like you, to create breakthroughs in their lives.
But here’s the thing: the work I share is wasted, for probably 95% of the people who use it.
Why? It’s not because it doesn’t get results – it does – with knobs on.
And, initially, it makes them feel great – positive, empowered and enthusiastic.
But I need to let you in on the secret of why I DON’T want you to ditch your limiting beliefs…
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When I work with one-to-one mentoring clients and my group Masterminders, I use a 3 step process.
- Get total clarity and Soul-level alignment with what you want – your Big Vision and Big Why {Stuck on this? Here’s a video to take you through the start of the process. Watch it and then come back here.}
- Clear out the hidden blocks that would otherwise derail you, while you’re not looking
- Take inspired action
Rinse & repeat.
It’s really simple (of course, there’s a little more to the 3 steps – but that’s for another convo). And it works a treat.
I have to be honest that one of the key differences between those who get ‘good’ results and those who get ‘breakthrough’ results is whether or not they do step 1 – most people don’t want to. They would rather clear out the blocks, to ease that inner pain a bit, then distract themselves from not living their Dharma – their Soul’s purpose – by being busy and overwhelmed. And, to be honest, if you’ve got a rough idea of what you want to achieve, that can be enough.
But here is what really breaks my heart:
There is a step I can’t take for you – one that’s implicit in those 3 stages – a block I can’t ‘fix’. And it’s the one that stops most people from ever, ever, ever creating their dreams.
The other week, Gary Vaynerchuk did a great video on regret. He said that when you talk to 90 year olds about their life, one of the first things they say is, “I wish…” They look back at all the things they wish they had done. And he concludes (and I agree with him) that regret can poison your experience of life.
So he encourages you to seize every opportunity to turn your dreams into reality and (for his target audience) to grow your entrepreneurial business and legacy.
Ditching your limiting beliefs and hidden, subconscious blocks is a Big Deal – to be celebrated – because it will shift you from “I can’t…” to “I can…”
But that’s not enough.
Sorry. I know that block-busting was hard work and I AM genuinely proud of you for doing it, but it’s simply not enough. Since 2002, I have worked with thousands and thousands of entrepreneurs and passionate world-changers, and there is one critical element that made the difference between those who, a decade on, are still stuck in desk jobs and relationships that they hate, and those who have been making the difference they dream of.
Someone shared a social media quote with me this morning that inspired me to write this article:
“You have to get up every morning and tell yourself, ‘I can do this’.”
No. That’s simply not enough.
“I can”, on its own, changes nothing, other than giving you a warm, glowy feeling inside.
But after a while, that glowy feeling disappears and you wind up with even more inner pain – an inner conflict – because your mind is telling you that you can, but your heart is asking you why you aren’t.
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As I said, “I can”, on its own, changes nothing. It’s taking inspired action that makes the difference. “I will” and “I have done” are what change the world.
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And this is the difference that makes the difference – the one leap I can’t push you through – the one block I can’t release for you, no matter how much I want to.
Want to know what the hardest part of my job is?
Getting people to say ‘yes’ to the future they’re dreaming of.
Once that’s done, the rest is easy. And so much fun!
Once the ‘yes’ is out of the way, once that decision has been made, then they barely read my sales pages – they just sign up. There’s no need for ‘discovery calls’ or ’email ping pong’. They know in their heart that I can help them on the next phase of their journey and they’re excited.
But if they haven’t made that commitment yet – if their ‘yes’ is still a ‘maybe’, then there’s very little I can do to help.
Variations of this quote are attributed to Goethe, loosely translated from Faust:
Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it;
Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.
Until one is committed there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back.
Begin it and the work will be completed.
I can give you every step of the ‘how to’, once you have made the commitment. But I can’t make the commitment for you.
Sure, I can apply leverage, and in the NLP world, that’s surprisingly common, but to me it feels like bullying and scare-tactics.
It’s how the super-biz-gurus get you parting with thousands, almost without realising it. Then they keep you hyped up, so you don’t guy buyer’s remorse. And if it doesn’t work, it’s because it’s your fault, not theirs, and they make their guarantee terms so tricky that only a red-blooded pedant would be able to jump through those hoops.
I could use the fear-based marketing tactics; I could prey on your emotions; I could use fake scarcity; I could use the scarily-common sleazy sales tactics.
But I won’t.
Why?
Because I don’t want to do that. It’s not authentic and, frankly, it feels like bad karma.
Confession time:
I would rather have many fewer clients, but have them excited and engaged and getting incredible breakthrough results…
… than have an enormous tribe of window-shoppers, who secretly resent giving me their hard-earned cash, leaving my life’s work to gather virtual dust on their hard drives, inspiring nothing but guilt.
Very few people are prepared to do step 3. They’re happy to have their dreams and clear out their blocks, but taking ‘inspired action’? That’s the kind of actions that terrify and excite you, but which FEEL so right, in your gut, and create the leaps and breakthroughs the world needs from you.
I can’t make you say “Yes!” to taking massive action your dreams. Only you can do that. But without that ‘yes’, your dreams stay stuck as nice ideas.
When you hit your 90th birthday, unless you’ve moved on to step 3 and been taking that inspired action, you won’t feel the same amount of regret as someone who did nothing (phew!), you’ll feel more (bummer…)… because you’ll secretly know you knew what you wanted, and that you cleared out the blocks, but you didn’t fulfil your potential, or walk your Path.
I don’t want you to spend even one more day, just dreaming about your dream. I want you to be taking massive, positive, inspired action.
Without that, there’s not a huge amount of point in clearing out your blocks, because the happiness and relief that creates will soon be eclipsed by the icky feeling of not living your Path.
Sure, I can use leverage, and I can help you to crank up the passion and excitement with techniques from step 1 (and that’s what we do on our Mastermind Intensive days and in my one-to-one work), but even then, the only person who can make the decision to take action, to say yes to your dreams, is you.
Without that decision – and it is just a choice – to take inspired action, there’s little point in me teaching you how to connect with your Big Vision and clear out your blocks. I risk making it worse for you.
So How Do You Break Through This Self-Imposed Glass Ceiling?
You just choose to. Right here, right now. No fancy ‘processes’ or ‘interventions’ required.
It’s a choice. Pure and simple. And, yes, you can make it now. Shall we?
I’m here – virtual-hand-holding – walking by your side, TOTALLY believing in you, your mission, your dreams and your ability to make a difference in the world.
Is it time to say ‘yes’?
Ok – let’s do it. I’m here. You’re not alone. You can do this.
One, two, three, step up!
Yes!
Woo hoo!
Now how does that feel?
I’m so proud of you – and excited for you.
So here’s what I want you to do right now:
Let me know, via the comments, what action you are going to take in the next hour (yes, you read that right) towards turning your Big Vision into reality.
And also let me know what support you are going to get, to help make sure this happens.
Accountability is fabulous, and essential, too:
- If you’re just dipping your toe in the water, then join us on Facebook. You can get access here: www.ClareJosa.com/updates
- If your Big Vision is more exciting, and you really want to get clarity, clear out the blocks, and take inspired action, then it’s time to join the Dare To Dream Bigger Academy membership.
- And if you’re up for a deep-dive, then you need to be on one of my Mastermind Intensive Days in June or October.
And if you’re ready to take action, I’ve got a special gift for you.
On May 26th, I’m running a live online training session, where I’m going to teach you the process I use with my Masterminders on their Intensive programmes, to move from ‘nice idea’ to world-changing business, taking things to the next level.
And it’s yours, as my gift to your future – but only if you’re ready to say “Yes!” to taking action and stepping up to do something about your dreams.
Here’s where to grab your seat:
And I’ve got an extra gift for you.
If you register for the Masterclass today, you’ll get a bonus gift of the 5 minute ritual I use each morning, before I get out of bed, to make sure that “I can” becomes “I will” and, by the end of the day, “I did”.
Grab your seat now:
I can’t wait to hear what you want to create and change in the world.
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With love, Namaste,
P.S. The messages in this article will be a whole ‘how to’ chapter in my next book: Dare To Dream Bigger – The ‘Inside Work’ Handbook For Entrepreneurs And Passionate World-Changers.
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