Do you ever find you don’t do things, because you’re scared of making a public mistake or being criticised?
But if you spend your whole life only living inside your comfort zones, then you’re not likely to get to live the deeper purpose that brought you here.
I’d love to share some secrets with you.
Discover what a 1* book review taught me about comfort zones and living authentically – and how the 3 step technique I used could help you to get past your fear of being criticised.And when you watched it, I’d love to hear from you via the comments:
- Which comfort zone do you want to handle first?
- How has it been keeping you stuck?
- And what could you do today, to let it go?
Here’s the no-charge Masterclass I mentioned in today’s video:
>>> Pain-Free Comfort Zone-Ditching <<<
I’d really love to get to share it with you.
With love, Namaste,
I’m a bit late on parade I’m afraid, but I have started to work through the backlog of unread emails which have accumulated and this one has really helped me today. A couple of weeks ago I sent what I thought was a pleasant email to someone requesting their assistance, at first they replied that they agreed and all would be ok, then three days later they responded very negatively, saying they were insulted by my request, which made me feel quite sad, as that was not my intention. Since then I haven’t been able to get this out of my mind, but now I realize that the second, negative, response was not a direct result of my request but arose from their own pain. I now know that as it doesn’t fit I can let it go and move on.
Thanks Clare x x
That is wonderful news, Joy.
Honoured to have been of service.
And thank you for sharing – your experience will help others who read this post.
x Clare
Love the woolly jumper analogy … but how do you deal with the criticism when it’s coming from yourself? Constantly?
Great question, Callie.
Do my 21 day gratitude challenge 😉
Seriously – it retunes the inner radio station and teaches your Inner Critic to spot what is going well, as well as what isn’t. http://www.ClareJosa.com/Gratitude
Apart from that, you can teach yourself to press pause, to choose which thoughts to feed. We can either pick up on the inner critic story and run with it, making it more drama-filled and justified, or we can laugh and tell our inner critic that it may or may not be right, but we don’t want to dance that dance, right now, in this moment.
I use a “1-to-3” method:
Catch yourself thinking a self-critical thought (that’s the ‘1’). The move it to ‘3’ by consciously thinking 3 things you like or appreciate about yourself.
Do this several times a day for a week and you’ll notice your inner dialogue really shifts – it frees you from the stress hormones that the self-criticism produces and rebalances your nervous system, as well as moving you to an emotional sense of release.
Does that help, Callie? x Clare